Babul (Hindi word)

Babul (????? pronounced baabul) (Urdu: ???? ??) is an old Urdu-Hindi term for father indicating a daughter's affection. The term is now mainly used in Bollywood songs in the context of a newly married daughter leaving her father's home.

In parts of northern India, Pakistan and Bangladesh, the conclusion of a daughter's marriage, marked by the bidaai (farewell) ceremony, is a profoundly sad occasion, because after this she leaves her father's house and permanently relocates to her husband's family. The moment thus marks the end of her past life and the beginning of a new one. The expression of this sentiment varies, but is usually in the formed of hushed sobs, while maintaining sober calmness and composure. This sentiment is often reflected in Bollywood and regional films.

Famous examples

Wajid Ali Shah (1822–1887), the last nawab of Awadh, wrote a popular bhairavi thumri "Babul Mora Naihar Chhooto Jaye", where he likens bidai to death, and his own banishment for his beloved Lucknow (video search for Saigal's 1938 rendition):

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Translation: My father! I'm leaving home.
The four bearers lift my doli (palanquin) (here it can also mean the four coffin bearers). I'm leaving those who were my own.
Your courtyard is now like a mountain, and the threshold, a foreign country.
I leave your house, father, I am going to my beloved.

The expression is found in the Sanskrit texts also. In Abhijñ?na??kuntalam the sage Kanva, who had adopted Shakuntala, mourns:

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Shakuntala must go to-day, I miss her now at heart ..
What must a father feel, when come
The pangs of parting from his child at home?

Gurbani

This word Babul has been used in Gurbani, the Sikh scripture few times. Babul means father. God has been referred to as Babul in Gurbani.

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My father (Babul, God) is all powerful and capable. He is the doer and cause of everything.

Farewell from father

Many Bollywood movies have songs on the babul theme. There have been several movies that use the term "babul" in the title: Babul (1950 film), Baabul (2006 film), Babul Ka Aangann Chootey Na (it is hard to leave father's courtyard) and Babul Ki Galiyaan (father's streets).

A song by Sahir Ludhiyanvi from 1968 film Neel Kamal is often played in Indian weddings is^[5]

"Baabul ki duaaen leti ja, ja tujh ko sukhi sansaar mile"

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Take your father's blessing! May you find a happy world.

I raised you tenderly with love, like a flower,
I used to swing you in my own arms like a swing.
O delicate branch of my garden, may you always find spring.

It is said that the singer Mohammad Rafi sang this song just before his own daughter's marriage.^[6]

Shakeel Badayuni wrote this song for the 1957 classic Mother India:

"Pee ke ghar aaj pyaari dulhaniya chali"^[7]

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The bride leaves today for her beloved's house.
The father and mother cry, their world is going away.
It was my fate to go to a distant land,
I leave, leaving behind my father's courtyard.

Returning to father's home in Savan

In the month of Savan (Shravana), the bride is supposed to return to her father home, now as an outsider. A song by Shailendra (movie Bandini) expresses this (video search):

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This year, father, send my brother,
to come and get me during Savan,
when my childhood friends will also return,
do send a message asking me to come.

This song forms the title of a 2002 film Ab Ke Baras.