Why does it always happen to me?

 I was just scrolling my Instagram feeds latterly and had a pang of envy, obviously I compared my life with that one so happening post (at least so true in my mind) which just popped-up. I am sure at a borderline, that a rich number of you all have gone through some miserable pain, some sought of discomfort and pondered “Is life that hard to only me?” “Their life is so faultless; nothing ever goes wrong for them!” “Who says life is fair for all, where it is written?”.

But. Wait… is this true enough? Are they living a quintessential life and you are just suffering? The answer to this is an absolute “No”. As its human nature we don’t believe to anything without some real examples, so here we are, the Instagram post, which was appearing too good to be true, was true. Okay, but... as Life happens, the person in that post lost someone very special to him, now that unbearable pain is something which he will never post or showcase. So, the people watching him on social media would only be aware of the happy side of his life. So, this is how it is, “Life is fair in its Unfairness to all”.

We spend our life digging for meanings, trying to make sense of it all, sometimes torturing ourselves over the seeming unfairness of a situation why always us? Will say why always good ones? But…. Unfortunately, that’s just not true it’s not only good guys that go through rocky roads, its all of us. This anyway is a myth that if I am good, good things will come up to me. We can do great things in our very best manner; we can love someone with our whole heart and still can be left heart broken. In all it does not matter, how much good you are to something you can’t ignore the uninvited unfairness en route.

No doubt you are the only one who can simplify this issue, by just not expecting the fairness all the time, instead of always looking for what you don’t want start looking for what beautiful thing you got and how it’s good to you. Cause when you will stop banging your head against the wall and screaming the unfairness, only then you would realize, you would live. If some unfair situation comes up, you can now control your response well and standup working for some plan B.

To conclude it all, just stop trying to fit all your expectations into a box or labels what society has defined, cause with all the good planning too things might fail, there might be someone doing it better than you.

Being resilient to the tough stuff, is all. Someone would be having a house at 24-25, a supportive family, kids, money in his bank account, living to the fullest, but that is something which should not matter you.

Remolding the phrase, we can say.” LIFE IS NOT FAIR, YOU CAN BE!”